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A resource to support parenting

Helping Children Thrive

Supporting Woman Abuse Survivors as Mothers: A Resource to Support Parenting

by Linda Baker and Alison Cunningham (2004). This 76-page resource, developed with funding from the Ontario Women's Directorate, is written for service providers assisting women who have survived woman abuse. These services may be offered in the violence against women sector, or through children's mental health centres, in child protection settings, or any other place where women seek assistance for their children. Material addresses the needs of abused women as mothers, how abusive men parent, how abusive men affect family dynamics, effects of power and control tactics on mothers, the potential impact of woman abuse on children of different ages, and strategies used by young people to cope with violence in their homes. Guidance on parenting children exposed to violence is also offered. Forty-two pages are designed as handouts for women, to be distribued as an adjunct to individual or group interventions on woman abuse or on parenting.


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Helping Children Thrive: Supporting Woman Abuse Survivors as Mothers


Contents

How to Use This Resource

Working with Abused Women: Assumptions & Values

10 Principles of Service Delivery

Characteristics of Abusive Men

Power & Control Wheel

Positive Messages for Mothers

Advocacy Wheel

The Needs of Abused Women as Mothers

Working with Mothers in Shelters

Working with Women on Farms or in Rural or Remote Areas

Working with Aboriginal Women

Working with Women New to Canada

How Abusive Men Parent

How Abusive Men Affect Family Dynamics

Effects of Power & Control Tactics on a Mother

Roles Children may Assume When Woman Abuse Occurs

Why the "Everyday Essentials" for Parenting are Important for Children who Lived with Violence

Survival Strategies of Children & Teenagers

Potential Impact of Violence on Infants and Toddlers

Potential Impact of Violence on Preschoolers

Potential Impact of Violence on School-age Children

Potential Impact of Violence on Teenagers

Taking Care of Yourself

Knowing When to Report Child Maltreatment

Additional Resources


Handouts for Women

Everyone is encouraged to use any of these pages as handouts during individual or group interventions with women. Some women may find them useful as self-study material. Each handout is available for viewing, printing or download.

Power & Control Wheel

Staying Safe

Helping Your Children Stay Safe

You Know What You and Your Children Need: Ask for It!

The Abuse of Children Wheel & The Nurturing Children Wheel

How an Abusive Partner can Affect you as a Mother

"Everyday Essentials:" Top Ten Tips for Parents

Lessons Children can Learn from Violence

10 Things I Can Do: Using the "Everyday Essentials" at Home

Choosing Non-negotiable Rules in our Family: R.S.V.P.

What I Learned from my Parents About Being a Parent

How my Child or Teen Copes

Books to Read with my Children

You and Your Baby or Toddler

You and Your Pre-schooler

You and Your School-aged Child

You and Your Teenager

Life with a Teenager: The Art of Negotiation

10 Basic Points of Good Discipline

An Exercise to Practise: "Clean up Your Room!"

An Exercise to Practise: "Negotiating a Curfew"

Healing and Strengthening the Mother/Child Bond

Navigating Children's Contact with their Father

When Children Act Abusively in your Home

When You Need More Support

When Your Child Needs More Support

Taking Care of Yourself


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En Français

Disponible aussi en francais: Pour aider les enfants à mieux réussir / En assistant dans leur rôle maternel les survivantes de la violence faite aux femmes: Une ressource pour appuyer l'art d'être un bon parent.


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With funding from the Ontario Women's Directorate, we produced a pamphlet of parenting tips for mothers called Information for Mothers Who Have Left Abusive Relationships providing guidance to help their children heal from the effects of violence. These 10 parenting "tips," while helpful for all parents, were chosen specifically to match the needs of children who lived with violence, as described here. We also have a work sheet, to help women generate ideas -- perhaps in a support-group context -- to apply the concepts. The pamphlet is available in English, French, Portuguese and Japanese.

Information for Mothers Who Have Left Abusive Relationships

Renseignements destinés à des mères de famille qui ont quitté une relation de violence

Informações parentais para mães que deixaram um relacionamento abusivo

Helping Children Thrive pamphlet in Japanese


Find more information on working with abused women in these two resources from 2008.

Helping an Abused Woman: 101 Things to Know, Say & Do

Helping Abused Women in Shelters: 101 Things to Know, Say & Do

Helping Abused Women in Shelters


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